I was reading something this morning that made me think of something my mother once told me. I don’t know if it was something she learnt herself, or was told, but I distinctly remember her saying to me:
“One of our greatest gift is our ability to forget.”
It wasn’t till much later in life that I fully understood what she said in the context of why anyone would want to forget, especially the good things in life, but after a handful of painful events in my life I realised her words made perfect sense. While we might not forget the essence of something that happened to us—a car accident, the loss of a parent, a nasty breakup—time and fading memory do a good job of lessening the emotional impact of these events, which is what I think my mother was trying to convey. That, while at the time we’re feeling an unimaginable pain or hurt, time really does make the emotion of that moment fade to acceptable levels.
I think it’s one of life’s greatest gifts and, in truth, gives us the ability to carry on.
So true. If we remembered everything, all the time, I suspect we’d be paralyzed with a lot of very big emotions. Sometime our brains protect us by withholding certain things from our past.
It’s definitely a positive when it comes to emotional events, not so much when you forget where you left your keys.